Perfectionist: To be, or not to be, that is the question.


Something I’ve noticed since a long time now is the mindset associated with the word “perfectionist”. Now, I might be wrong but I feel as though the slightest thought for desiring perfection falls under the list of “negative emotions” which people far often end up criticizing. Not only that, but this typical criticism is perhaps the greatest reason why we blindly shun anything that has got to do with achieving perfection.

Yes I know what you’re thinking: Nobody is, can or ever be perfect and I absolutely agree with that age old, wise saying. Yet in cementing our brains into believing so, we’re unconsciously cutting the path to progress because we ignore one wonderful route of betterment which I think IS the feeling of “wanting to achieve perfection”. Let’s face it, there are numerous occasions in life where we wish to reach a goal and more often than sometimes we adhere to merely wishing.

The drive for accomplishment just never arrives while a perfectionist is never short of one; this is the differentiating factor.

In reality, perfection isn’t as simple as it seems. It has such an immense magnitude of underlying, fierce emotions, emotions that vary person to person. Usually we strive for perfection because of bitterness towards something, or in a manner to prove our superiority in the face of competition and this exact reason is why “perfection” has come to be considered somewhat negatively. Alas if we could channel this fierceness in a more self benefiting way, under the light of positivity, perhaps then we could learn to use it to our advantage.

I think I’ve always been somewhat of a perfectionist and the one thing I can tell you for certain is: it ain’t easy. You have to first absorb this “drive”, wrestle with the ferocity, be ready to have it knocking in your brain for however long, and then only can it be converted into betterment for any work it is you wish to be done perfectly. Many times just the desire to have something absolutely perfect is what allowed me to “break the box of norm” and think beyond the obvious.

The only logical conclusion I end up at, is: Perfection mastered perfectly can definitely be maddening but that doesn’t make it any less beautiful.


  • graceemilyryan

    August 20, 2014 at 7:20 pm Reply

    It’s been a pleasure to read this, as something I find so relatable. By far the biggest struggle for me is never being fully satisfied with anything I create (such as my blog posts). I don’t know whether this will get better with the improvement of my writing skill, or a life-long plague I just have to deal with! Perhaps you could enlighten me with your take on this? Nevertheless, thank you for sharing your thoughts here; it’s refreshing to read a blog with wonderful grammar, punctuation and spelling. Bravo.

    • tinkererofwords

      August 21, 2014 at 11:07 am Reply

      woah! First off, THANK YOU for that comment. You’re the 1st person to actually liven this place up with genuine feedback, honestly means a lot! 🙂
      haha well I’m in the exact same boat as you regarding this issue with lack of complete satisfaction. I do think it is to stay for life but I’ve come to accept it as sort of a blessing and just make this plague, a friend 😉 I don’t think I’d be at the place I am at today were it not for this obsession with perfection. How about for you? Hasn’t it helped you in the long run?
      Also, so happy to know someone who appreciates grammar, punctuation and spelling. 😀
      I’ll definitely check your blog too. I’m already certain I’ll enjoy reading whatever you write!

  • graceemilyryan

    August 21, 2014 at 11:44 am Reply

    I know the great feeling from having someone personally comment on a post you’ve taken the time and thought to write, so no problem!
    I definitely think in some aspects, perfectionism has, prompting me to keep at something until I truly do have something to be proud of, but there are other cases when achieving perfection is a little unrealistic, and it’s bogged me down.

  • tinkererofwords

    August 21, 2014 at 11:54 am Reply

    rightly said (I mean written!)
    I think you’re the one who enlightened me..

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